Marriages are under attack. This is an undeniable fact. The devil is working overtime to destroy marriages. So it is so important that we do our parts to preserve and protect our marriages. Some time ago I asked my facebook community to share their best marriage advice. The responses were great. Insight was shared that covered nearly every aspect of marriage. One of my favorite responses was “Whatever your wife says, just do it!” Oh the wisdom that flowed from that brother’s post. Love it! Love it! Love it! So, based upon the responses received I compiled the following ten tips to help you build an unbreakable marriage.
- Christ must be the center of your marriage.
Christ created marriage so it should go without saying that He must be the center. However, not only must he be the center but He must also be first. He has the power and the desire to do amazing things in our marriages; He only requires that we let Him in. We must pray often for ourselves, our spouses, and our marriages always seeking to please Him and not ourselves.
- Communication is key.
Without proper communication our marriages are doomed for failure. Honesty, vulnerability, and transparency are crucial aspects of communication that help develop intimacy. We must remember that our spouse is not a mind reader and thus it is our responsibility to let them know how we feel. This includes compliments.
- Always remember you are a team.
You and your spouse are a team and should be united in everything. At the marriage alter you committed to being one. Thus, you should never work against each other but for the betterment of the team. Negative talk to others regarding your spouse should never occur. You are one and as one uplift your spouse in the same manner you would like to be uplifted.
- “I’m sorry” and “I forgive you” must become a part of your vocabulary.
The ability to apologize and to forgive can be life changing in a marriage. Holding a grudge or being too stubborn to say sorry will cause cracks in your marriage, cracks that can be devastating. Humble yourself and determine to do what’s right even when you don’t want to.
- Sex is a gift from God so enjoy it.
Making love is a beautiful experience for a husband and wife to share. It is the icing on the cake and the sugar in the batter. Knowing this the enemy works hard to have this gift abused by singles and neglected by the married. What a pity. Eventually someone is going to get tired of eating sugarless cake without the icing. Believe that.
- Be a strategic general and chose your battles wisely.
In marriage you’re going to encounter conflict. So be strategic, recognizing which battles are worth the fight and which are not. If it is your intention to have a healthy happy marriage then picking your battles should be an easy task. Remember, a wise general keeps the ultimate goal in mind and so should you.
- You didn’t create them so why are you trying to change them.
Rejoice in who your spouse is and celebrate your differences. Certainly there is some room for improvement in your spouse as well as in you. Your job however, is simply to work on you. End of story.
- Selflessness can be life changing.
One of the first lessons we must all learn when entering into a marriage covenant is to be selfless. We must put the needs and desires of our spouse before our own. When both spouses learn to do this all 3 partners are pleased in the marriage, Christ, husband, and wife.
- Date each other.
Remember how exciting and important it was for the two of you to go out on dates when you were single. It was a special time when you got to learn about your spouse and develop a deeper relationship with them. In marriage we should still seek to learn more about our spouses and develop deeper relationships with them. It’s so easy to get caught up in the daily grind of life and we miss these special moments. Be committed to dating your spouse.
10. Stay committed to the commitment.
Marriage is not a walk in the park. It requires hard work but the reward that comes from the hard work is so worth it. Hard times will come and they are a test of what you are made of. Do you have what it takes to stay committed to the goal? Are you willing to never entertain the thought of quitting? For some encouragement, just look around at the millions of people who have been married for a lifetime. They were committed to the commitment and so can you.
I hope these 10 tips are beneficial to your marriage. However, I’m sure you too have some valuable marriage advice that can bless others. Please share your nuggets of wisdom by posting a comment below. Also, be sure to share this post with someone who could benefit from it. God bless!